Coaching – should I bother?
Wondering if coaching is for you? I asked one of my clients to share her thoughts to help you decide.
How would you describe coaching?
It’s a supportive process where the individual talks through something they want change. The coach supports and facilitates them to move forward. Everyone has the knowledge, belief and resources within themselves to do that.
What would you say were the catalysts for seeking coaching?
People have the answers but sometimes they need the support to get to where they need to be. For me, originally, it was about a potential change of career (I was thinking about becoming a coach), and I’ve ended up using a coaching approach in my work now. My first experience of coaching was on a weekend of training, and it made me want to do more. You really see the power of it once you’ve experienced it.
What advice would you give someone when selecting a coach?
Start with yourself. Be clear about what you want to get out of it. Coaches have different specialisms. Be comfortable with the person – have a look on the web, talk to them, explore your options first. You might want someone who is very different to you, who does challenge you. Also, different issues could potentially need different coaches.
What makes a great coach?
For me, it’s that you have to have a connection. You’re going to be vulnerable so you need to be able to trust them. They should be able to work with you as you make shifts; it won’t happen overnight. They should listen in the depth that’s needed. Find someone trained and experienced – coaching IS a skill – that can ask the questions that are needed and support and challenge in the right way.
How has coaching worked for you?
So many different things. Mostly, it’s that opportunity to STOP and reflect and make choices for the right reason for you and where you are at that time.
How do you feel after a great coaching session?
I leave feeling energised and positive – even if I’ve been crying all the way through! It can definitely be emotional at times. You feel that something has moved, something is going to change as a result of the session. You’ve also got an outcome, an action that you know will make a difference.
What are your top tips for anyone considering coaching?
Just do it! Try it! Be clear about what coaching is. If you want someone to give you answers, it’s not for you. If you’re willing to explore, then it’s the right thing to do.
A MASSIVE thank you to my client (you know who you are!) for agreeing to share their experience.
This is one of a series of articles by Nicki Eyre about coaching. Nicki Eyre is a Transformational and mBIT Certified Coach offering coaching programmes for businesses and individuals, helping to increase self awareness and emotional resilience. She also supports people struggling to cope with bullying in the workplace, or to move on after such an experience. Contact Nicki for a confidential discussion about coaching:
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